Tuesday, July 15, 2008

The Momentous Occasion

I almost posted something here at the end of last week but refrained at the last minutes, because it was a pretty inconsequential post and it would have become the 900th entry to this little blog o'wonder. Somehow I felt like I should wait and have something really good to write. Lo and behold: I can now report that I know where I'll be living in Philadelphia for, quite possibly, the better part of six years.




I'll be sharing a gorgeous turn-of-the-century house with an older woman named Phyllis, who is really cool and works as a community organizer in Philadelphia. The house is in the Mount Airy neighborhood of Philadelphia, which is basically a suburb and looks like the older, fancier parts of West Hartford (but with even more giant, beautifully landscaped houses that had Heather and I hanging out of the car window and gaping like peasants at every turn). It's a Craftsman house, which as Phyllis explained was a movement that focuses on workmanship and detail in architecture, so the house is full of these period details like leaded glass windows in the living room, an original chandelier in the entry hall, decorative woodwork, handmade tiles in the fireplace, etc.



Anyway, we drive into this neighborhood and it's just so gorgeous that I'm willing to take the apartment practically sight unseen. Then we meet Phyllis, who was really nice and down to earth. She bought the house in 1995 and has shared it with a succession of housemates; she was prepared with a rental agreement that stressed that it's a house share, not just renting an apartment, and that she always wants it to feel like a home. The house has three floors: the first floor is the kitchen, living room, dining room, etc, the second floor has four rooms that include her bedroom, office, and a really awesome-looking study/library, and the third floor (where I'll be) has two giant rooms, a storage room, a bathroom, a cedar closet, huge windows, and best of all, built-in bookshelves! There's even a backyard filled with flowers. You can imagine I was kind of in heaven. Did I also mention that there's a cat? His name is Thomas, he's gray and very adorable, but he's also small because he has the feline version of HIV, which is sad. So cute though. Phyllis mentioned that she doesn't really allow him to go upstairs, so hopefully if he stays out of my area it'll be OK for Sean when he's around.

Anyway, we talked with Phyllis for a while, and she seemed very easy to get along with. She was originally from CT and went to UConn for sociology, then she got a M.A. in finance so she could actually make a living, and now she works for a non-profit in Philadelphia called Impact Services. In the end, I gave her my application and left with fingers crossed, because she had one other woman coming by. As I told Heather, I didn't know what I would even do with myself if she didn't pick me! Luckily, she called me back about an hour later with happy news, and now I have a home to look forward to in Philadelphia. It's a couple of blocks from a train station on a line that goes right to Temple, too, which is just awesome. Plus, I feel a little better about moving to a city where I know no one, because at least I'll have some human interaction, instead of potentially going home to a tiny, anonymous apartment every day.

I can't even say how good it feels to know exactly where I'm headed. I don't have to spend the next month freaking out about having a place to live and whether I'll be living in the ghetto (which is where the apartments we looked at on Saturday were kind of located). Instead I can enjoy the fact that as of today, I have exactly one month left of employment! Whoot!

Wednesday, July 09, 2008

Of Grapefruit and Verse

Maybe it's my own fault for not having expanded my fruit-tasting horizons earlier in life, but I was completely unaware that grapefruit tastes like a really awful orange. It starts off so promising with that delightful hint of citrus, and then finishes with a mouthful of nasty. I tried putting some Splenda on it, but it didn't really help, plus I realized why in God's name should I have to ADD sugar to a fruit? They named a whole kind of delicious sugar after what's supposed to be found in fruit! Anyway, the sole reason for this experiment was that I bought a grapefruit for Rae to eat when she and Heather stayed over this weekend, but due to some unforeseen circumstances *cough* hangover *cough* she was not in a position to eat it the next morning, and I figured it shouldn't go to waste. Of course in the end, after a couple of wincing bites, that's exactly what happened to it.

This weekend, spent with two of my best friends (alas, Sara was busy moving apartments in NY) brought the realization that even though we were all so close in high school, there was so much we didn't know about each other, things we hid, things we weren't comfortable saying out loud. It reminded me of something Greg said to me after we broke up, that after everything it turned out that we didn't know each other's insides that well at all. You can only really know as much as the other person chooses to reveal to you, really, and I guess in adolescence there's only so much you feel secure enough to reveal, even to friends.

I was also reminded of the following poem by Phillip Larkin:

This Be The Verse


They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.

But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another's throats.

Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don't have any kids yourself.

Wednesday, July 02, 2008

July Already

A year ago this month, I had a newly-registered Corolla, a sister about to take the New York Bar, and a bruise the size of a grapefruit on my ass from hitting a rock while tubing on the Connecticut river.

Two years ago, I was headed to Massachusetts with my mom and Sean to finally introduce him to my grandfather, who told inappropriate stories about my grandma's cleavage and invited Sean to come back anytime, with or without me.

Three years ago this month, I got a signed poem from Billy Collins, the best delayed anniversary present ever.

Four years ago I dated Tommy, worked at Sofia's, and ran into Greg once while he was cutting the grass on the town green. I locked my keys in the Tahoe in the parking lot of the Trumbull mall, got my first massage, and was still friends with Wendy and Meghan.

Five years ago this month, I dated Greg, had a dog named Sheena, introduced Meghan to the art of coning, got perfect 5s on AP Bio and English, and went to a Harry Potter-themed sermon at Rae’s church. Sara moved to West Hartford, Rae and Heather had college orientations, and I pondered the future of my relationship with Greg.

Six years ago, I started working at Sofia’s, saved for the HILL trip, missed Greg while he was at Boy Scout camp, met him at the airport when he came home, drove Jen to her job every morning, and got a 5 on AP History but only a 1 on Physics.

Next year this month I will be married and just back from a month in Rome. What else? I don’t know yet, but I’ll be happy.